6 Practical Reasons to Reject Porn

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In the last year I have been dealing with many young men who have a porn problem (and honestly almost all young men have a porn problem). The scenario is always the same, these guys know its “bad” but the lure of sexualized images/videos is too strong. They try to fight, but the real, tangible pleasure in the moment outweighs the abstract notion of “sin.” In the end they don’t know why they are so attracted to it, and they know even less why it’s truly bad for them and others.

One part of the problem is that previous generations have fought pornography in an overhyped way. They stated things unrealistic things like “porn is bad, and people who watch it become serial rapist murderers.” While some killers have stated pornography unleashed the monster within, the average high school boy watches 2hrs of porn per week and is pretty “normal” to outside eyes. Because the “scary results” of porn did not happen, some assume it doesn’t have any real practical results in real life. So thus, here are reasons you need to wage war against porn. These are not abstract issues that have no real manifestation, they are not things that we guess about like “how many angels can dance on the head of a needle.” Instead these are tangible and practical reasons. Think on these with your heart, and the wholeness of your being.

1. You are disobeying God

Don’t think abstract thoughts about some far away concepts. Think reality. You are looking at porn. Jesus calls you to stop. Jesus calls you to repent. Jesus calls you to keep your life and thoughts free from lust. Yes, this may be hard, and it may take years of sexual detoxification, prayer, repentance, accountability, community, hard work, and tons of Grace. But it’s still what Jesus calls you to do. You know this with your head, now realize it with your whole being. Jesus literally died because you look at porn. In his death, he looked to the future, at every time you looked at porn, and took each sin upon himself and was crushed for your porn. He paid it all. You don’t need to stay pure to earn anything, for he earned your salvation. But now, he calls you to work out from that salvation. Let your whole being be filled with the realization that this is your DUTY, from and for a God who loves you. Write it on your forehead or computer wallpaper.

2. You are training up sexual selfishness

This world encourages people to put yourself first and do what makes you happy (secular hedonism). Jesus created an upside down kingdom where everyone is called to put others first. There is a war being waged between the two views. By viewing porn, you are (as a whole) training yourself in a lifestyle against God’s way. When you look at porn, you are suffocating your whole being with selfishness, it affects the very core of who you are. It prevents you from being a selfless man, one a woman could fall in love with and feel safe with. Instead it makes one part of you a sexual predator, you start thinking: sexuality = exciting, thrilling, self-satisfaction. It literally changes and trains up your heart to seek your own needs, instead of those of your (future) spouse. Let your whole being realize porn is corrupting ALL of it into selfishness, it destroys “non-sexual” parts of you too.

3. You are hurting the one you (will) love

The worst part of your life will be the moment you have to confess to your fiancée/spouse. When I told my fiancée of my past, it was immensely hard and painful… on her. It hit me like a hammer with regret. Because you have already been trained up in selfishness (see above) you haven’t even thought of her. Have you considered the pain you are causing for a gentle heart that God is entrusting you with? Your wife/future wife will feel you don’t care for her. She will feel that you don’t really love her, and she is not enough for you. She will feel that the man who she is to trust everything to is out there looking at other women. Dude, you are being stupid, pleasing yourself, and not thinking of your (future) wife, who you are hurting! 99% of you will be married, if you aren’t already. Let your whole being be permeated with the putrid sting of agony that YOU are causing your wife or wife-to-be.

4. You are re-wiring your brain

Your brain was not created for such an overload of sexual stimuli. And I don’t mean this in some abstract spiritual notion. I mean that 3 lb. blob of neurons upstairs. This is where Christians and Atheists agree. Secular evolutionists state the brain is not evolved to have such stimuli and it destroys normal human functioning. I recommend you to visit this amazing (secular) site yourbrainonporn.com. Essentially, addictive drugs result in an increase of brain chemicals (dopamine) that give you pleasure. Porn does not use true sexual pathways, but hijacks and REWIRES your brain by giving it loads of dopamine-pleasure from new types of sexual imagery. This changes your brain to be desensitized to real sex, sensitizes it to the addiction (new images). It turns out that men who to sleep with numerous women, have trouble with real sex because of pornography. There are tons of people on this site that have “deprogrammed” their brains from porn (without the help of the Holy Spirit) because they started having trouble receiving satisfaction from real sex. Let your whole being realize that porn RE-WIRES you to stop enjoying real sex, even atheists are scared of its effects and many have stopped using it.

5. You are encouraging sexual abuse

Last year Hollywood released 600 full length films; in the same time porn studios released 13,500 full-length films. Why do porn studios make twenty-three times more films?! Because you watch them. Simple supply and demand. If all Christian men would stop watching porn, there would be a dramatic decrease in its production. Every time you visit a porn site, you cast your silent vote to make more porn. Every time more porn is made, more women are abused. Some of the “actors” are abused in their “career.” Women are exposed to perverted sexual practices, and coerced by “professional peer pressure” to do harmful things for more pay. They are exploited.

WARNING SHOCKING/FOUL LANGUAGE: Here are some statements by former pornstars (their names are removed, so you don’t be an idiot and start looking at their photos):

J.J. “Most girls get their first experience in gonzo films – in which they’re taken to a crappy studio apartment in Mission Hills and ********* in every **** possible by some abusive asshole who thinks the girls name is Bitch”.

G “The abuse and degradation was rough. I sweated and was in deep pain. On top of the horrifying experience, my whole body ached, and I was irritable the whole day. The director didn’t really care how I felt.”

Je. “Guys punching you in the face. You get ripped. Your insides can come out of you. It’s never ending.”

I want you to read this article. Let your whole being realize that you cast your ballot for increasing this abuse every time you click on a porn site.

How to wage war against porn with Grace

Please see this talk by my friend Dmitriy Spatarel

3 responses

  1. I understand that men have the biggest problem with porn then girls, but as a girl I have been fighting it since I was 11 (almost 9 years) with countless help from pastors & countability partners that all seemed to fail to ‘detoxicate’ me. I will never give up my battle with it though, because I don’t want to break the promise I made with God that I would never give up on Him, & have accepted that I will most likely fight this horrific battle until the day I die.

    • Alesya I have very encouraging news for you, most likely you have a demon who has entered your body at or before age 11. I’ve been thru many points of deliverance and still am going thru some. You need a couple, some one who specializes in deliverance. Deliverance is a process and listening to the Holy Spirit before during and after deliverance is the key. God is able to deliver. We can see it clearly in the scriptures. I pray that our Father who is in heaven will send such people your way. Because He did it for me and He will do it for you. Peace

  2. I’ve had this problem as well since I was 11. I was sexually molested when I was six. I find it quite difficult to stop myself from watching porn even though I know its wrong

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